Having Well Behaved
Children: Great
Beginnings
We all
want our children to
develop into fantastic,
content, self-sufficient
people.
We all, also, want to
actually enjoy ourselves
while accomplishing our
parenting
goals.
Unfortunately, the
whole parenting process
can, at times, often be
overwhelming!
What if
your entire family’s
lives can be made
easier, happier & better
by merely following a
personalized,
straight-forward plan?
Let's
make life simpler by
setting up achievable
goals, step by step,
beginning with your own
Personal Family Plan...
Wouldn't it be great to
have a Personal Family
Plan, your very own
Family's Constitution?
Our entire U.S.
government relies on our
country's constitution
to guide us through all
the difficult questions;
issues & quandaries
presented over
time...Doesn't it make
sense for your precious
family?
Your Family's
Constitution will serve
as a Blueprint to
follow...a guided tour,
helping everyone stay on
a chosen path towards
developing well-behaved,
joyful, fulfilled
children with calm,
content parents.
Family Constitution
1.
Our Family
Beliefs
2.
 Our
Family Rules and
Expectations
3.
My Rights: This Family’s
Child
4.
 Our
Family Schedule
Just answer three simple
questions:
What kind of people do we, as a family, want to be?
Why do we want to be this type of family?
How can we become this family?
Now, make a list with
your families answers.
Keep these lists posted
throughout your home, &
refer to them often.
Talk about your specific
family characteristics
as often as possible.
Use them as tools in as
many different
situations as you can
find applicable. Praise
your children, often,
when they exhibit these
family traits.
Talk about your list
often, so your children
can come to truly
understand what it
means. Remember, all
families are different,
and different families
may have different
beliefs. This diversity
is absolutely okay.
Remember, your
personal Family
Constitution carefully
describes your
family’s values and the
way your family
will behave.
To help get your Family
Constitution started, we
have provided sample
Family Constitution’s.
Since all families are
different, please modify
to suit the values,
needs and style of your
own family.
Our Family Beliefs
(older children’s
version)
We
always respect
ourselves, even when
pressured otherwise.
We
lead a life
dedicated to
maintaining personal
integrity, no matter
the effort.
We
take full
responsibility for
our actions: we are
proud of ourselves
when we do good
things and we learn
from our mistakes.
We
take immediate steps
towards correcting
our mistakes.
We
smile when passing
someone.
We
welcome change while
never forfeiting our
values.
We
will be honest, even
when painful.
We
proudly give more
then expected.
We
always have good
intentions.
We
respect others while
recognizing their
needs, opinions, and
wishes.
We
expect and require
to be treated with
respect, courtesy,
and kindness. We
demand that others
respect our wishes.
We
directly communicate
our thoughts,
concerns and needs
so that others will
have proper
knowledge of them
and be able to make
thoughtful choices.
We
will share our
knowledge, kindness,
and love.
We
relate to people
based on their
character, rather
than stereotypes.
We
smile when passing
someone.
We
fight fairly in
disagreements.
When
we apologize, we
look the person in
the eye, convey why
we are apologizing,
and mean it.
We
will not let a
little dispute
injure a great
friendship.
We
will remember, great
relationships in
life may involve
personal risk and
certainly involve an
underlying
commitment.
We
will question the
status quo when
necessary.
We
are gentle with our
environment.
We
will pursue
knowledge to further
enhance our world
and others.
Our Family Beliefs
(young child’s version)
We
are nice to other
people.
We
will tell the truth
even when it is hard
to do.
We
will share our
things and our love.
We
are proud of
ourselves when we do
good things and we
learn from our
mistakes.
We
all make mistakes.
When we realize we
have made a mistake
we think about it,
learn from it, and
forgive ourselves.
We
smile when passing
someone.
We
don’t hurt people on
purpose.
We
try our best to be a
good friend.
We
smile when passing
someone.
When
we apologize, we
look the person in
the eye, tell them
why we are sorry,
and mean it.
We
won’t let anyone
hurt us on purpose.
We
talk
about our feelings
when something is
bothering us.
We
will help protect
and be gentle with
our environment.
Family Schedule
 It
may help your family to
create a family
schedule. This can give
children a sense of
stability and routine.
Stability and routine
help a child to have
good behavior.
Sample Schedule: Modify
for your family needs
7:30-8:00 Wake up and
get dressed for school
8:00-8:30 Eat Breakfast
8:30 Leave for
school
9:00-3:45 At school
4:15 Arrive home
4:15-5:00 Free
play/relax
5:00-6:00 Homework and
chores
6:00-7:00 Dinner
7:00-7:30 Bath
7:30-8:00 Get ready for
bed and read story
8:00 Lights out
- go to sleep
Family
Rules and Expectations
Each child in your
household should have a
clear understanding of
what is expected of
them. Clear and
consistent rules helps
children to behave.
Unclear and inconsistent
rules are confusing and
cause children to push
the limits and
misbehave.
Sample List of Rules for a two year old child:
Modify for your family
needs
Go over the rules with each child in the house so they will know
exactly what is expected
of them.
1. I
will not pinch, bite, or
pull other people’s
hair.
2. I will only draw on paper, not on furniture, walls or
clothes.
3. I will help clean up my toys.
4. I will not throw food.
5. I will sit down when I am eating.
6. In the morning, I will help pick out my clothes and help
put them on.
7. At bedtime, I will help put on my pajamas, help brush my
teeth, and choose a
bedtime story.
Sample List of Rules for
a 4-5 year old child.
1. I will not use a
rude or whiny voice.
2. If a task is difficult, I will not give
up, but keep trying or
ask for help if I need
it.
3. I will not beg for things after I have
been told no.
4. If I am upset, I will find an acceptable
way to calm down.
5. I will wait my turn when someone else is
speaking.
6. I will have good table manners: stay in
my chair unless excused,
eat with my utensils,
use inside voice,
remember to say please
and thank you, try new
foods at least once, and
compliment the chef.
7. I will help clean up my toys every day.
8. In the morning, I will get myself
dressed, make my bed,
feed my pet, and brush
my teeth without being
asked.
9. At bedtime, I will put my clothes in
the hamper, put on my
nightclothes, brush my
teeth, and choose a
bedtime story without
being asked.
10. After eating, I will take my dishes to
the kitchen and help
clean the table.
11. I will only eat in the kitchen.
12. I will put my clean clothes away after
they are washed.
This is a list of what
you have the right to
expect from you father
and me. As people in
this family, you have
the right to be treated
with fairness and
respect.
My Rights:
1.
My parents will give me
unconditional love.
2.
My parents will speak to
me with respect: no
shouting or mean words.
3.
My parents will do their
best to make sure I am
safe.
4.
My parents will do their
best to make sure I have
enough nutritious foods
to eat.
5.
My parents will send me
to school and activities
so that I can learn and
have fun.
6.
My parents will do their
best to teach me what I
need to know to be a
happy person.
7.
My parents will listen
to me when I explain how
I feel.
8.
My parents will respect
my personal preferences
and allow me creativity
and choice making power.
9.
My parents will punish
my misbehaviors, not my
feelings.
 Consequences
 Rewards
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